Michael De Haan : December 29, 2013
I hope you are finding these newsletters helpful and encouraging. You might be wondering if you can share this with other parents and the answer is “YES”! Just let me know who they are with their email address and we will make sure they get a copy of The Parent Connect as well.
This month we are talking about how to RESPOND to your teenager instead of REACTING to your teenager.
Did you do your homework from last time? Have you looked up and memorized Proverbs 15:1? The truth found in this great verse is the first thought that you can bring to your minds and hearts when your teenager opens the door of frustration in your relationship.
But today I am going to suggest to you three quick thoughts that you can go through like a checklist in your head to keep you from losing your temper:
- Pray this short prayer first: “God give me grace in the moment”. It is impossible to maintain control of your emotions apart from the grace of God, so be willing to ask God for help.
- Ask yourself, “What can I teach them right now?” This thought will keep you focused on a bigger task which is teaching your teen the beliefs and life skills they need to become an adult.
- Consider the context. What physical changes in growing and developing adolescent could be causing this behavior? Or what pressures or circumstances at school, work, or elsewhere might be fueling your teenager’s emotional response?
If you get a chance, check out this very helpful video from a recent Parent Seminar that talks more about understanding the physical changes that are going on inside of your teenager. Understanding these changes can give you the context you need to RESPOND instead of REACT to their wild mood swings.
Thanks again for being a parent. It’s a difficult journey—one I’m finding out first-hand for the first time in my life. Thanks for allowing me the opportunity to partner with you on this journey. Know that I pray for you daily. I want to share this great quote with you: “Wise men are not always silent… but they know when to be.”
My goal is to encourage you and to open the lines of communication between our church and your home. With that in mind, feel free to email me any questions or prayer requests you may have.
Have a great day,