A Future With God
by Pastor Michael
What is a baked potato without a steak? French fries without a juicy hamburger? Salad dressing without a salad (for those healthy eaters)? It is incomplete and somehow lacking. The same goes for the spiritual teaching in our teenager’s life if we as parents don’t become actively involved. Youth ministry was never intended to be the sole source of spiritual training.
Ask yourself this question. Who do I depend on to teach my teenager the precepts of God? This question is often easy to answer but very hard to admit. You don’t need a degree in theology to have confidence in teaching your teenager about who God is and what you believe. You just need His confidence. It’s called God-confidence.
If you read Scripture, it’s pretty hard to deny the importance of role of parents in passing down faith. They are meant to be the primary spiritual influence in the life of their kids. All kinds of research and studies of teenagers and their families support this as well. Parents are still the main influences in the lives of their teenagers.
So if all of that is true, then I have a question…
Why do so many of us depend on the youth ministry in our church to be the primary spiritual influences?
Now, I’m not trying take you on a guilt trip at all. I just believe that if we can work towards a healthy balance in this area it would change our families.
You see if the spiritual influence in your teenager’s life were a meal than your influence would be the meat. The influence of your youth ministry would be the appetizer or the dessert.
I only see your teenager a few hours a week at the most. That is no comparison to the amount of time you spend with your teenager.
Now don’t get me wrong. I believe CYM is vitally important in to you, your teenager, and your family. I believe we have some of the best teaching, small groups, experiences around. But any healthy youth ministry serves a support role to the ministry that happens between parent and teenager.
So what can you do about it? First of all, don’t settle for just dropping your teenager off at church. Second, refuse to be passive about faith in your home. Try setting a regular appointment with your teenager where you can discuss your faith together. Finally, engage the youth ministry that your teenager is a part of. A great way to do this is to listen to our sermon podcast so you can ask questions about what we’re teaching.
Another simple way is to use the Rites of Passage Experience. These are some incredible ways for you and your teenager to work together and simply have spiritual conversations about important things going on in their lives.
Walking this journey with you,